Resilience: Turning Challenges Into Opportunities

“Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.”

― Gever Tulley

Let’s get real—life has a way of testing us when we least expect it. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that growth and comfort rarely hang out in the same room. I’ve spent years bouncing between setbacks and resets: from childhood spent moving school to school, moving halfway across the country to start a new life with my family, to waking up in a hospital bed after 42 days and realizing everything had to change.

Here’s the thing: challenges aren’t stop signs, they’re invitations. I’ll never forget the period after my overdose—my life felt like a series of dead ends. But asking my Memaw for help began a string of small, stubborn acts of resilience. With her support and the patience of those who stuck by me, I pieced together the basics of living and working again. Each day wasn’t about heroic leaps; it was about stringing together enough tiny, forward steps that, over time, turned into something resembling hope.

Now, here’s what sticking with it taught me (and, hopefully, what you can use):

1. Reframe Setbacks as Lessons

When things went sideways—like losing my income overnight, or failing at a project I’d pinned hopes on—I started asking, “What’s here for me to learn?” That mindset didn’t fix everything, but it stopped me from staying stuck.

2. Break it Down

If the mountain ahead feels impossible, chop it up into hills. After my illness, I had to literally relearn basic tasks. Big goals didn’t matter; what counted was focusing on the next, tiniest step. Don’t get caught up in the summit—you only climb it one step at a time.

3. Lean On (and Listen to) Others

Resilience isn’t a solo act. I wouldn’t be here without people like My wife, Memaw, my mom, and friends who answered the call on the worst days. Don’t be afraid to reach out—leaning on others is strength, not weakness.

4. Celebrate the Small Wins

When I finally managed to pay bills on time or land a small contract, I let myself feel proud—even if bigger things still felt far away. Don’t wait for the finish line to celebrate; every milestone matters.

5. Take Care of Yourself

This one I learned the hard way. Burnout, stress, and neglect can crush even the toughest person. Prioritize sleep, movement, or whatever reminds you that you’re human—your future self will thank you.

Resilience isn’t about never falling—it’s about rising up, awkwardly and bravely, each time you do. If a kid exchanging drug dens for new beginnings can rebuild, I promise you can too. Start small, celebrate the inch gained, and share your story—it might just be the hope someone else needs.

What’s one challenge you’re facing, and how can you take the next step? Drop your thoughts below. We’re all in this together.